Friends are very fragile links

well, i was talking to my mum about some issues about relationships and told her about my stuff too. i know sometimes friends can have issues with each other or unhappiness with each other but i feel that we should always he honest with each other.

my mum told me that even if you may be close friends, you should always be tactful when talking about another or even writing about one another. one wrong move could cause a whole relationship to surface cracks. if the original bond was not strong, a friendship could just be broken like that. why use words to hurt friends and make future gatherings awkward? who will feel happy if your friend went to talk behind your back? but have you ever once considered if it may be a plm with your own attitude?? did you ever reflect on your own speech and actions?? i guess, its very impt to know how to observe ppl's reactions and know what to say or not to say, what is appropriate and what is not. we should not let our own plm or attitude or displeasure affect anyone else. it isnt fair. even if you think that u shud really say it, do it tactfully. so that the person does not feel offended.

in a friendship, its always a give and take. i dun see why everyone has to conform to a certain person because that person has an attitude or seems to have more say. its all about understanding one another, knowing and accepting each other for who he/she is. most impt, everyone should have a fair say be treated equally. there isn't anyone who is not as much a friend as the other otherwise, you would not be friends.

these are just some random thoughts. i know i have some more "inquisitive" friends. if you happen to see this post, pls dun ask me if i'm referring to anyone. (that's why i acty wrote this quite some tme ago but din post cuz i was scared i wasn't tactful enough and may offend some ppl. but hey, i'm not even referring to anyone. why can't i just voice my thoughts? so i just decided to post it tdy.) lol. its just some thoughts i have after talking to my mum. i guess talking to a senior really can make you think much more into things. sometimes i really wonder, "why do i need to put up with this?" or " who does he think he is?" or "why must we conform to his attitudes?" hmmm, i noe its cuz i'm afraid of causing cracks in my relationships but i guess, sometimes, i shud stand up and voice out my own opinions. if the person really wants to continue this friendship or at least still wants you as a friend, they should noe what things that they do will hurt the other party and know to stop. impt! do it tactfully.

even though, evryone shud have a freedom of expression. not everything can be done and said in reality. that is, if you still care.